What the Aubrey Marcus “Radical Monogamy” Spectacle Can Teach Us About Betrayal Trauma, DARVO, and Coercive Control
On the surface, this is just another drama involving a handful of relatively obscure wellness influencers. Many of you may not even know who Aubrey Marcus is. But after diving into the podcast and wading through thousands of now-deleted comments, I was captivated by something more profound, and my mind couldn’t let go. The story provides an unsettling case study of the exploitation of trauma, patriarchal belief systems, and coercive control that can poison spiritual communities.
The almost three-hour podcast permeated the health and wellness space with the pungent stench of a multi-layered onion of betrayal, trauma, and cult psychology. Viewers witnessed a popular spiritual wellness influencer gaslight his wife, younger girlfriend, and followers, with the help of a mentor accused of predatory behaviour.
Something stirs as we reflect on collective stories of self-abandonment and blurred boundaries. What so often stays hidden is now available to name as we gather the missing pieces of ourselves, lost in our own battles of betrayal.
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Aubrey Marcus founded the supplement company, Onnit, with podcaster Joe Rogan. After selling the brand to Unilever, Aubrey launched into the wellness influencer/spiritual guru space. His offerings include podcasts, books, and Fit for Service, which offers “courses, events, and a community to transform your life.” His podcasts vividly detail forays with psychedelic medicines and explorations in love and relationships.
Aubrey built his brand on a sort of authenticity porn, trading vulnerability for views. He gazes into the camera, voice earnest and sincere, sharing the often deeply personal revelations he’s gleaned along his journey.
Essential to his poetic persona are unfiltered confessions about his sometimes complicated love life. He drags his partners into the spotlight, having recorded multiple podcasts with his ex-fiancée, Whitney Miller, and their experimentation with polyamory. Whitney was initially reluctant to open the relationship, and both encountered difficulties, which they shared openly.
In 2020, Aubrey abruptly left Whitney for Vylana after a ketamine trip revealed they were already divinely paired. Vylana was monogamous and, all of a sudden, so was Aubrey. Two weeks later, they were married. They launched their relationship to their followers in a podcast called “How to Prepare for True Love”(Marcus, 2020). The YouTube title on the episode reads, “Life was preparing us for this,” and the episode plays like relationship self-help advice. I remember listening to it while doing laundry, still reeling from the end of my last partnership, and feeling painfully lonely.
The episode lays out their love story in a display of enlightened exhibitionism. Aubrey reads out loud from his love letter to Vylana as her head leans back, eyes cast skyward, seemingly savouring a memory:
Dear Vylana,
What would it feel like to know that you are chosen, beyond a doubt?
How would it feel to be fully seen, for the full potential of who you are?
How would your heart feel never to worry that you were too much or not enough?
The magic has since worn off, but it’s embarrassing to admit a part of me fell for it. At the time, love had forsaken me, and I was snatching at whatever hope I could reach. Here was a real-life Beauty and the Beast-like fantasy love story—Divine Sacred Union. It was proof that one can heal attachment traumas and fear of intimacy with ferocious self-love. Vylana, with her sound bowls, angelic voice, and chiselled abs, finally claimed by her masculine equal, was now Queen of the Marcus brand.
I followed the love story for another episode and then dropped off. Their oversharing and tone-deaf Burning Man-style Indigenous cosplay became a bit much. However, many people continued to listen to the podcasts, attend Fit for Service events, and buy their relationship courses. Many held up the Aubrey and Vy Sacred Union as relationship inspiration. And so when it all blew up at the release of “A New Pattern of Sacred Relationship Emerges,” people erupted (Marcus, 2025).
Without the flowery word salad, the podcast can be summarized as follows: Aubrey and Vylana decided to open up their relationship. Alana is Aubrey’s new (younger) girlfriend. The three of them all get along, but the road wasn’t easy, so their friend, Dr. Marc Gafni (more on him later), has served as their mentor as they navigate this new dynamic.
However, much more was said. And even more was said beyond the confusing and often nonsensical wall of words.
The almost three-hour conversation is a case study in coercive control. Aubrey and Gafni sit on either side of the two women, Vylana and Alana (I know, and they look alike too), who do not speak until at least 20 minutes in.
First, Gafni takes the reins. He outlines a sort of Hegelian Dialectic: monogamous relationships are beautiful in theory, but are riddled with dishonesty and infidelity in reality. Aubrey confirms this; his friends suffer from the stress of cheating with physical health conditions like psoriasis (there is no talk of how their partners suffer).
When Vylana eventually speaks, she concurs. She has suffered relationship betrayal at the hands of all her previous partners, and this trauma still lives in her body. The solution is a new model of relationships in which (it is implied male) sexuality can be liberated from shame and secrecy and live in the glorious light of honesty and trust.
So, if you’re thinking, this seems like they’re just describing an open relationship, you’d be right. Except that Gafni says,
“Paradoxically, this is not about polyamory. That’s the paradox. It’s about radical monogamy, a deep, exclusive, lifelong, committed relationship. But not in the classic monogamous sense, it’s an EXPANDED monogamy. There’s a radical monogamy, but it’s not just a monogamy of two; it’s a slightly bigger monogamy.
“It’s a radical monogamy of deep exclusivity. And then there’s a new goddess who will also step into this field of radical monogamy in the field of erotic mystics.”
Got it? Much of the podcast is Gafni besieging listeners with blocks of text filled with nonsensical double-speak. The name “Radical Monogamy” is loaded language that inverts the meaning and is needlessly confusing.
Why is all this necessary? Aubrey’s marital vows aside, using the existing Ethical Non-Monogamy framework based on honesty, integrity, open communication, vulnerability, and trust would probably be a better approach to open the relationship. This way, they would benefit from the research, advice, and resources of others who have already forged the path.
I’m not an expert. But, after perusing essays and resources (including Reddit), I know that ethical non-monogamy requires consent. Consent must be informed, enthusiastic, specific, and freely given, without undue pressure or influence.
And, as we listen to the podcast further, it’s clear that Vylana doesn’t really want this. Throughout the conversation, she becomes visibly distressed, her shoulders tense, and she cries several times. Vylana talks about how she’s been pushed “past her edges” repeatedly and has “died hundreds of times.” Far from the sacred relationship that frauded their audience, this doesn’t seem healthy. It sounds abusive.
When consent is lacking, coercion is required. The 5 Ds—Double-speak, Double-vision, Double-binds, Double standards, and DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, and Offender—characterize coercive control (Rankin, n.d.). Gafni starts the party with double-speak: this isn’t non-monogamy, it’s radical monogamy, Trojan-horsed under a different name, mixed into a bowl of word salad.
Double-speak confuses the listener. It reinvents words and uses dissociated, abstract language to obscure true meaning. In the podcast, virtually no one gives clear examples or context. Vylana and Alana speak almost entirely using metaphors.
One commenter pointed out that it sounds like Alana is using predictive text, one ethereal word following another. When words and meanings are twisted and inverted, one can assume they’re in doublespeak territory (IndoctriNation, 2023).
On the first listen, it worked on me, because while their speech is disembodied and devoid of substance, it’s also incredibly persuasive. Despite my gut feelings, frustration and impatience while listening, I also envied the certainty and conviction with which they all spoke. I remember thinking that maybe I was the close-minded one, while the rest were moving into higher plains of human evolution. However, two memorable whack-a-doodle moments in the episode keep even the most open-minded firmly on the earth.
First, Aubrey shares that he got a message from “Spirit” in the middle of a workout telling him to go on the exclusive dating app, Raya (“So, I’m in the middle of my workout and I just get this message. And the message is ‘Go on Raya right now and you’re going to find somebody there that’s important’… and to ignore God at the moment to finish my workout, would be absurd”).
He swipes past the first girl (“No, that’s not it”) and sees Alana, a 28-year-old model who describes herself as “lost” at the time, moving out of Miami in a few weeks. Even though Spirit required a swipe, Aubrey was aging out of her preferences in a month (he’s 44), which proves that the match was rapturously ordained. The synchronicities abound.
It gets more unhinged. Vylana bonds with and befriends Alana, but trouble finds them. While in Egypt, Aubrey receives another divine download, this time from Isis,
“And I was in the sanctum sanctorum of this temple. And I received a message as clear as any message I’ve ever received, and it felt to me like it was coming from the voice of Isis, and it says, ‘You need to have children with both of them.’
“And my heart sank into my belly, and I was like ‘Fuck!’ Because I knew that that was not the covenant I made with Vy that brought her in.”
…I know. What in the names of Joseph Smith, Warren Jeffs, Keith Raniere, and Samuel Bateman is this?
Why, rather than telling wealthy and powerful spiritual men to give all their money to starving children, does God always insist on telling them to impregnate a harem? I’m surprised that the God of a Poet King would resort to such a tired cliche.
When Aubrey tells Vylana this story, she sees no humour in it. As she recounts the story, she says, “It was bringing up that piece of me that feels like I always get hit out of left field as soon as I feel safe…” Her voice cracks.
This is the betrayal trauma her body remembers. Even though everything is out in the open, her boundaries are being bulldozed; She still isn’t safe, and her body knows it.
Betrayal trauma is defined as harm that occurs at the hands of someone we trust or are dependent on (Birrel & Freyd, 2006). Betrayal can occur at the hands of romantic partners, parents, caregivers, friends, colleagues, bosses, teachers, and even organizations and institutions. It puts the nervous system in the high-stress state of fight, flight, freeze or fawn, disrupting one’s mental, emotional, physical, social and spiritual health.
When traumatically bonded, cognitive dissonance and double-vision can be incredibly common. Vylana sobs as she talks about transcending, killing off, and eventually grieving the part of her that desires exclusivity. She talks about how free she’s felt as she leans into the pain and discomfort of being pressured into an open relationship. She talks about giving up her needs and desires for monogamy as part of a “unique sacrifice to the masculine.” Perhaps she can convince herself that she’s choosing this.
Betrayal blindness is a typical response when we depend on a relationship and can’t leave or fight back (Freyd & Birrell, 2013).
Vylana urges us not to project onto her. She tells the audience she’s making choices and is happy: she’s never felt so loved. Only she truly knows, but betrayal blindness can manifest as spiritual bypassing, in which individuals interpret their emotional discomfort as wounds they are responsible for healing and overcoming, rather than signs of harm.
Manipulators exploit spiritual beliefs to convince victims that freedom and enlightenment lie on the other side of their mental, emotional, relational (and sometimes even physical) pain. Spiritual bypassing cuts one off from the instincts that protect boundaries. Vylana speaks about her mission and destiny—she must override her gut feelings and accept this arrangement to serve their unborn children.
We might interpret Aubrey’s messages from God as spiritual bypassing to avoid accountability, i.e., “Yes, I made a vow, but this is not what I want; it’s what God wants.” He might even believe it.
Betrayal blindness can cause self-fragmentation and silencing as a way to survive, like a mirror shattered into a million pieces. Recovery often involves gathering these parts and finding a way to put them back together, not cutting them off.
Victims of betrayal blindness describe a foggy sense of self, confusion around trust, and difficulty forming attachments. Rumination is extremely common as their minds turn over what happened, trying to gain more information about the situation that might prevent further betrayal. Many ruminations turn self-hating, i.e., “If I’m at fault, I am empowered.”
DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), a concept developed by Jennifer Freyd, is a tool of coercive control that can confuse, fragment, and silence a victim (Freyd & Birrell, 2013). It encompasses gaslighting, or denying any wrongdoing and making the victim feel that they are crazy. Even worse, it leaves them feeling at fault: rather than the perpetrator’s actions, their expectations, desires, and often reasonable reactions to abuse are to blame.
Vylana’s journey is described as one of sacrifice, spiritual growth, and healing, even as her body language says the opposite. She says she told the part of herself that grieved this arrangement, “I know this is not what you want, but it’s what you need.” This would be an excellent subtitle for a DARVO 101 manual.
Aubrey and Gafni’s theories frame Vylana’s desires as unreasonable and misguided. It is not Aubrey who needs to examine his unwillingness to commit. Vylana’s needs are the result of unhealed wounds, and she must amputate the infected parts. Her very normal reactions of anger and destabilization when her boundaries are violated are labelled “insane.” At one point, Vylana cries and thanks the rest of them for being so patient with her.
There are many problematic power imbalances in the group. Aubrey is a wealthy man with a lot of influence. There are gender and age gaps. The trio are speaking on Aubrey’s platform. To his credit, Aubrey points out that he doesn’t want to withhold resources from either of the women. If Vylana were to leave, he would ensure she was provided for. However, it’s impossible to know the details of this arrangement. What share does she have in the company she’s helped build for the last five years? Is there a non-disclosure or non-disparaging agreement preventing her from sharing her story? Vylana has built a public persona around the Marcus brand.
Further, bonding, particularly trauma-bonding, can obstruct our power to choose, keeping us in a double-bind.
Humans are wired to attach to people we love. Love is essential for survival, but attachment and emotional dependence can sometimes create power imbalances and leave one susceptible to abuse (Freyd & Birrell, 2013). Someone who has experienced relationship betrayal may learn that manipulation and love are wrapped in one another, and boundaries must be sacrificed to preserve relationships (DePrince, 2005).
Patterns of wounding can prevent individuals from seeing where they may be empowered to leave or stand up for themselves. In this way, Vylana’s history of betrayal leaves her vulnerable. Her comfort is challenged like a frog slowly boiling.
First, she agreed to be “monogamish.” Then, she accepted adding a third person to the dynamic. Next, Alana became Aubrey’s girlfriend. Vylana “can see the beauty” in Aubrey having children with Alana, even if the thought brings her to tears. Her boundaries are slowly eroded step by step. Whatever line she holds, she must eventually give up or lose the relationship.
What would it feel like to know that you are chosen, beyond a doubt?
Many people have pointed out the double standards present in the dynamic. While Vylana and Alana are allowed to have lovers, Aubrey emphasizes that Vylana’s relationship with Josh was not as deep as the one he shares with Alana. It is unclear if either of them can have children with other men.
Patriarchal gender essentialism is a covert theme in this brand of spiritual control. Gafni references Romanian men who work 17-hour days, an example of how men “pour” into women in different ways, so women can pour love back in their way (by letting them have a sidepiece). It’s fair, but not equal (or was it equal, but not fair? I can’t remember).
Alana references her teacher, Kelsey Kazarian, who runs workshops in which she teaches masculine devotion and promotes ideas like “Women love to hear the word no.” These theories frame women as submissive and nurturing and men as leaders, protectors, and providers.
Drawn out to its logical ends, gender essentialism can create a dynamic in which it is considered “unfeminine” (in a heterosexual dynamic) to uphold boundaries. It gaslights women into thinking that submission is empowering, while men occupy actual positions of power and influence in their relationships and society.
Alaska Wolfe (2025) released a podcast episode that eloquently unpacks the subtle misogyny and unequal relationship dynamics.
Altered states of consciousness through the use of psychedelics can make individuals susceptible and decrease their agency. Aubrey and Vylana share a disturbing story in which they offer Alana a “God Bomb Ceremony” on their second meeting. The ceremony involves powerful psychedelics, body work (i.e. physical touch), and sound healing. They joke that Alana has good instincts to trust them so early. But, plant medicines lower defences, increase openness and trust, blur boundaries, and increase bonding through feelings of intimacy and spiritual connection. Aubrey and Vylana love-bomb her, telling her they’ve never worked with energy so pure, and Alana says she’s never felt so seen. Later, Aubrey launches into an emotional monologue idealizing Alana’s purity. After watching Vylana break down several times, it’s the only instance we see him in tears. The whole thing smacks of cult grooming.
No doubt, the voices that speak to Aubrey have something to do with his heavy use of psychedelics. But the fact that his comments don’t immediately elicit an eye-roll from his posse suggests that they frequently enter the altered states that make these revelations fairly standard-issue.
The use of Marc Gafni as their therapist is problematic. Vylana states they wouldn’t have gotten this far without his theories that frame and anchor her experience. Gafni is an excommunicated rabbi accused of multiple counts of sexual misconduct, including sex with underage women (ages 13, 14, and 16).
He denies these allegations, blaming the victims for creating a witch hunt against him. Watch his interview with Dr. Phil for a textbook example of DARVO (24×7 Network, 2024). At the end of the interview, he lectures the viewer on the dangers of online smear campaigns. It’s really something to behold.
Online, you can find the testimonies of many of his (alleged) victims, including Sara Kabokov (2016), who was 13, and Donna Zerner (2016, 2019), who worked for him and with whom he had a sexual relationship with fuzzy boundaries and questionable consent. Zerner is an engaging storyteller, and her videos are worth watching.
Aubrey publicly stated that he believes Gafni. Donna Zerner said she kept her knowledge about Gafni a secret because she believed in his mission. I can’t help but wonder if Aubrey fears that the allegations against Gafni might prevent his teachings, which Aubrey openly praises, from reaching a wider audience, so he chooses to look away. Paul Levy (2016) writes about how organizations can become blind to sexual misconduct, especially when such denial helps them avoid confronting their shadows.
Aubrey’s decision to bring Gafni in as a teacher seems, in part, aimed at persuading Vylana and Alana to embrace this dynamic. Unsurprisingly, this situation appears infused with his (alleged) pathologies.
At one point, Alana talks about how she can feel the resonance of truth in her body. It has never failed her, leading her to places beyond her wildest dreams (i.e., in front of a 100,000-person podcast audience and inside a private RV at Burning Man). At first, her soft-spoken conviction persuades me. I wish I had her level of certainty. Then, I remember she is sitting next to Gafni.
Watching him through the screen, I have a gut feeling: a mixture of disgust and fear. I believe Gen Z call this “The Ick.” However, Aubrey, Vylana, and Alana lean in. They laugh at his unfunny jokes, defusing nervous tension. Vylana fawns the most. She turns to him to finish her thoughts and appears to monitor his reactions when she speaks.
So, does Alana not feel her stomach knot when Gafni floods the space with his rhythmic cadence of pressured speech that says nothing?
I wonder if anyone in the polycule has bothered to contact his accusers. How might the “truth resonate” (or not) in their bodies as they listen to Donna Zerner speak?
Aubrey and Vylana Marcus have accused the audience of projecting. “Don’t project on me that I’m not choosing this,” pleads Vylana. Of course, it’s impossible to tell what goes on between them when they are no longer performing. I don’t know any of them, so my impressions are filtered through my experiences. But, as many commenters have pointed out, we’re also forming and expressing opinions, judgments, concerns, moral outrage, and skepticism. People are naming what they see, and it’s not a projection to point out something looks unethical.
It’s also worth pointing out the irony of accusing the audience of projection when your marketing capitalizes on your parasocial relationship with them. Projection is the foundation of the brand.
Many followers feel misled and betrayed. They were invested in what they thought was an exemplary monogamous partnership, and many signed up for their courses and heeded their advice.
A commenter who attended a relationship workshop with them wrote, “They went on and on about their monogamous love… It was like he was making us all long for a love like that. I remember leaving feeling confused. I wouldn’t be surprised if a bunch of people went home and left their relationships, thinking ‘If I can’t have a love like that, I don’t want any love.'”
Thousands of comments were deleted from the YouTube video and Aubrey and Vylana’s social media posts. The majority were critical, but kind. People wrote about the gut feelings they were learning to trust again—in fact, the episode is a great way to practice feeling that sense we have often been taught to ignore. Women shared their disappointment that a relationship that brought them hope appeared to be another example of a woman being asked to abandon her needs and desires for a man. Something is cracking open as grounded psychological concepts like boundaries, gut instincts, and healthy relational conflict meet the disembodied wishful thinking of the spiritual community.
So, where do we go next? If Aubrey, Vylana, and Alana sat in my office, what would I tell them? What would I tell the thousands of disappointed followers and commenters?
First, remove the relationship from the public eye, but open the comments. Vylana already seems to be backing away, which appears healthy. Oversharing can be damaging when there is real pain involved. There’s a fine line to walk with performative vulnerability: How much do you share to appear sincere and open without baring everything?
However, Aubrey should consider republishing the comments and letting the audience talk, rather than DARVO’ing them and blaming them for Vylana and Alana’s distress. Many commenters are survivors of cults and abusive relationships. One commenter noted that the still-flowing conversations served as “sacred fire for abused women to take back their power.” Avoid silencing and fragmenting. Let the group process, offer support, and heal.
Thoroughly investigate the accusations against Marc Gafni. Marc Gafni’s presence in this dynamic raises serious ethical questions. Listen to his alleged victims. Read Paul Levy’s (2016) paper on wetiko to understand how followers can engage in collective betrayal blindness to preserve power structures, protect the “mission,” and avoid confronting their shadows.
Regardless of the allegations, Gafni does not appear to be a safe and appropriate person to provide relationship guidance. How does Gafni manage his dual roles as friend and mentor to Aubrey and therapist to the polycule? How does he maintain professional and ethical boundaries? How does he distance himself from his theories of male sexuality and gender roles and hold space for alternate worldviews?
Hire a licensed, regulated therapist. Look for a therapist in good standing with their regulatory body, who receives ongoing supervision, is transparent about their theoretical orientation, and is accountable to an ethical code of conduct and standard of practice (American Psychological Association, 2017).
Ask about their training. What psychological theories and frameworks inform their work? Do they have experience with non-monogamous dynamics and know how to support honest communication, boundaries, and consent? Are they trauma-informed and attuned to nervous system states such as hyperarousal, dissociation, and shutdown? How do their spiritual, political, or gender beliefs shape their work?
A good therapist honours their fiduciary relationship to the client, supports autonomy, recognizes double-binds, and monitors their biases.
On that note, be cautious of courses marketed as group therapy. Fit for Service course advertisements use peak emotional imagery: intense eye contact and streaming tears. I can’t help but compare these marketing videos to the evidence-based, quiet, regulated spaces of the retreats that social workers and couples therapists, like Melissa Johari, offer. Rooted in Gottman and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) frameworks, against a simple backdrop of a suburban conference centre, the only “mind expansion” is the clarity and presence of mind participants might feel from leaving their phones in their rooms. The only “transformation” is the psychoeducation they receive and the skills they continue to work on. It’s the real, grounded work of learning to care for ourselves and others as we navigate daily life.
Pause the use of psychedelics. Psychedelic medicine can have profound healing effects. Currently, CAMH is running a trial on the use of psilocybin in treatment-resistant depression. But psychedelics render the individual highly vulnerable, putting them at risk of retraumatization, spiritual bypassing, and serious boundary violations. Integrating these experiences requires time, space, and a safe container to allow blasted open neural connections to settle.
Safe, ethical use means an accountable structure that ensures power dynamics between participants and facilitators are explicit, consensual, and trauma-informed. And, it should go without saying that sexual relationships with participants are a serious violation of this vulnerability and trust.
Learn about coercive control and cult psychology. Aubrey, Vylana, and Alana should become familiar with concepts like betrayal blindness, trauma bonding, DARVO and the other D’s (Double-speak, Double vision, Double standards, and Double-binds). They should be empowered to walk away. This might involve working out legal contracts that protect each individual’s agency and contribution to the brand.
I checked on Whitney Miller, Aubrey’s ex, in all the drama. She’s posted a few things without naming names. Overall, it seems she’s been vindicated.
She reminds followers dealing with heartbreak that one day, you will realize it was never about you not being enough. She’s had a lot of therapy.
A while back, she posted a video on Instagram about a self-defence class for women she helped facilitate. There is no forced vulnerability or crying on cue. The atmosphere is light. Women laugh, playfully fumble through the moves, and support each other with warmth and humour. They eat snacks. Rather than performative and pretentious, it feels wholesome.
But who knows?
It is social media, after all.
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